Written by cycleguy on June 21st, 2015

I’ve been doing some soul-searching the past couple of weeks, especially these past couple of days with Father’s Day upon us. FD is like Thanksgiving in many ways: it takes a back seat to Mother’s Day like Thanksgiving often does to Christmas.

My situation is even more unique. Being a pastor, my girls received another moniker: PK. Pastor’s kid. Preacher’s kid. Translated: kids under a microscope. Kid living in glass house. Kid most often embarrassed by father’s profession. What has gotten me reflective of late is an article I recently read about PKs. The gist of the article was how many leave the faith-some to return and some not to. It is a tenuous balance to be sure. Kids want to be “themselves” but feel this great pressure to not be left out or to stick out like a sore thumb.

The greatest hindrance, though, is the double life PKs often see their parents live, especially the father. They also see and hear firsthand the church wars waged, as they see and hear things said about their mom and dad no child should hear. They also see and hear things about people and churches no child should from their parents. While I certainly wasn’t a perfect father (there is only ONE of those), I sincerely hope I left my girls with something of value.

You see, we ALL leave behind something-a legacy if you want to call it that-which our children and grandchildren either adopt or discard. While I never had a flashy financial picture to give them, I know I could have done better (I rue the day I ever heard of a credit card and financing for new cars).

One thing I don’t regret: trying to pass on a legacy of faith. I wanted/encouraged my girls to forge a faith of their own. I knew and know that my faith would not see them through life-only their own would. And while I can’t leave them a financial empire, I can leave them with something even better: a love for Jesus.

That is my greatest gift. What will you leave behind?


16 Comments so far ↓

  1. Betty Draper says:

    Well said brother…exactly what I want to leave my kids…
    No greater joy in the world then to have our children walk with the Lord. You know whatever comes their way they will make it if they will trust Him, that He has their best interest at heart.

  2. Daniel says:

    That book is still being written and I really have no clue …

  3. That’s the one thing that will last them a lifetime. Everything else just doesn’t matter. Happy Father’s Day, Bill.

  4. Ha my met Tami, I know they love that gift. Hope you had a great day, Bill.

  5. Pam says:

    Excellent post, Bill. Reflects my heart completely.

  6. Linda Stoll says:

    We’re living our legacies right now, aren’t we, Bill. Too often we think it’s something nebulous in the future when we’re dead and gone.

    But TODAY is the day! Now to live it fully, authentically, joyfully …

    Have a good one!

  7. A legacy of faith is the best gift we can give our children and grandchildren, Bill. Great thoughts for today!

  8. Sharon says:

    There is no better gift that we can leave our children than the gift of our faith. No, we cannot give them salvation, but we can leave them the legacy of watching us trust in a God who is utterly faith-full. I have not always done this job well, but I think that’s part of what I’ve taught my sons, too. That there is forgiveness and grace for our shortcomings…


    • cycleguy says:

      You are right Sharon. I couldn’t give my girls their salvation but I could give and show them a living faith and hope they learned from it.