Written by cycleguy on June 26th, 2017

Jo saw this and sent it to me. I laughed.

There are all kinds of leaders and all kinds of people. Some are “take charge” kind of people. Some are “sit back and see what happens” kind of people. Some are “bull in a china shop” type of people. Some are very “laid back” kind of people. Some are “bury their head in the sand” kind of people.  And there are some who are “go with the flow” kind of people.

I am an extreme extrovert. Jo is the opposite. But God has made us this way and put us together for some “odd” reason. She needs my “get-up-and-go” influence and I sometimes need her stabilizing “just slow down” influence. She needs my “here, let me introduce you to my wife” approach and sometimes I need her “let’s just wait to see how this develops” approach. We make a good team.

One of the things that makes me the most upset is when I hear her say, “I’m not a very good pastor’s wife.” WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! And I tell her that. She thinks that way because she doesn’t fit the mold of the “model pastor’s wife.” I’m sorry to say my late mother was one of those and never gave Jo a chance. No, she doesn’t sing solos; lead a ladies Bible study (although she can); speak in public (in front of big groups…although she has done a superb job on Mother’s Day); play the piano; or take charge. She prefers quietly encouraging me in the background, being a fantastic mom and mamaw par excellence; typing the Power Point each week; and a whole host of other things.  I wouldn’t trade her for the world or for any amount of money nor for any woman on the face of the earth.

We make a great team. I’m honored she still wants to be my wife. 🙂

And it is amazing how a post develops because all I started with was a funny saying. (And for the record, that saying describes her. I suspect that is why she sent it to me).


8 Comments so far ↓

  1. Aw! Such an awesome tribute to Jo, Bill! And yes, I’d have to agree that you two are the perfect team and perfect balance for each other. I’d say it’s a match made in Heaven.
    Blessings to you both!

  2. Lisa notes says:

    I can so relate to your wife. I’m more about “let’s wait and see” whereas Jeff is “move forward quickly”. 🙂 Yes, so grateful that God knows who we need in our lives! You and Jo make an awesome team.

  3. Linda Stoll says:

    I hate when people put all kinds of expectations on the woman who just happens to be the pastor’s wife. Let’s just love her and let her be who she truly is.

    And not treat her like an idol or put her up on a pedestal. She needs friends just like the next woman …

    • cycleguy says:

      You are right Linda. Putting expectations on pastor’s wives is not right or good. I have allowed Jo to be Jo. This church does as well. While they love and respect her (as they should any lady) she is not put up on a pedestal. They can’t put her too high. Being married to me would make her fall. LOL

  4. floyd says:

    Love that quote! And I get it; not all people are called to do and be robots to and for the church… sounds like legalism to me…

    You know what they say about who is behind every great man…

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