“Hey You! Yeah you!”
MANY TOO VULGAR TO BE MENTIONED HERE
Some have been used on us. Some have been used by us on others. The really ugly part (besides what they do to others) is there are tons of others-some as devastating, some not so but lingering.
“Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me.” What kind of stupid talk is that? Everyone knows it is not true. I would have traded any kind of hit to not be called names. We had another stupid line we used to say: “Everything you say to me bounces back to you.” But in reality, being called stupid (or whatever) doesn’t jump back to them. It sticks with us.
PEOPLE. CAN. BE. SO. MEAN.
There is a bumper sticker that moves along those same lines but since I don’t like that word I won’t use it. But you get the point. Words have two basic ends: they can either help or hinder. They can either build up or blow down. They can pick up or pick apart. I am unable at this point to even think where words can be neutral and not have any effect on another person. Here is what Bob Goff says in Love Does:
I used to think the words spoken about us describe who we are, but now I know they shape who we are.
Whoa!! Back the truck up! Did he just say what I thought he said? Yessirree Bob (no pun intended). That is some powerful truth. If you don’t think so, then think back to words said to you. Or about you. Do they really describe you? Is that who you really are? You may have been wounded by them (hence they shape us), but in God’s eyes you are not those negative words. Words have power. If you don’t believe that, start thinking back over your life. Did you perform better or feel better when you heard words of encouragement or when you heard words of degradation? Here are a few words of wisdom:
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Pr.18:21
“Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.” Pr.13:3
“The mouth of the righteous brings forth wisdom, but the perverse tongue will be cut off.” Pr.10:21
“Whoever belittles his neighbor lacks sense, but a man of understanding remains silent.” Pr.11:12
That’s enough. Point made. I like the way Bob ends his thoughts: “The words people say to us not only have shelf life but have the ability to shape life.” So what kind of words are you saying to others? Any thoughts?